This post was written for inclusion in the monthly Carnival of Natural Parenting hosted by Hobo Mama and Code Name: Mama. This month our participants have shared Top 10 lists on a wide variety of aspects of attachment parenting and natural living. Please read to the end to find a list of links to the other carnival participants.
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A co-worker recently approached me for advice. Her friend had just given birth and she was going to visit her at the end of the day. She told me she didn’t want to get the typical teddy bear or flowers. She wanted to get something meaningful. I encouraged her to bring a gift for the mother rather than for the baby. Chances were that mama had already purchased or received everything she needed for baby. After all, she had just gone through the most life changing and physically gruelling events of her life. It was time to pamper her and help her on her road to recovery.
Here is a top 10 list of gift ideas that I came up with for mothers after giving birth:
10. Magazines, books or other reading material. If she is in the hospital and must stay to recover, these gifts will be truly appreciated. I remember my MIL dropping off some celebrity magazines and it helped me get through those last few hours before I was finally discharged.
9. A keepsake, charm or figurine that will act as a constant reminder of this precious moment. Consider one that you can build on in celebration each year.
8. Natural lotions, bath soaps, salts or candles. Mama will most likely need some nice long baths to help her body recover in those first few weeks. One of my most memorable gifts was from Hubby’s friend who purchased a basket full of shea butter soaps and lotions. I really appreciated his thoughtfulness. There are some amazing natural products out there. Check out this lovely line by Earth Mama Angel Baby.
7. Something beautiful and womanly. After birth you no longer feel sexy or glowing. You are most likely wearing a moo-moo or an over-sized t-shirt and are yearning to feel beautiful again. How about a nice piece of jewelry or a new nursing top?
6. Tea. Red raspberry leaf tea (helps tones muscles in the pelvis region and uterus) or any of the Earth Mama Angel Baby teas are a great idea.
5. Snacks. She will be hungry! Natural healthy foods are preferable, but don’t starve her of chocolate and sweets. She earned it! Also, consider making a batch of these lactation cookies for the breastfeeding mama.
4. More food! If visiting the new mama at home, don’t walk through that door unless you bring a meal! Between physical pain, lack of sleep and constant feedings this mama might not have the time or energy to prepare wholesome meals for her family. Consider making a large hearty soup or casserole that she can store in the freezer.
3. Your time. Do you have some spare time to come over and help with laundry or watch the older children so mama can get some rest? Can you make a meal or watch the baby while mama has a shower? Consider making a homemade coupon offering your time and a list of duties you are willing to tackle. If you’re lucky you will get some extra cuddle time with the baby in exchange.
2. A hand written note or card letting her know how proud you are of her and congratulating her in her new role.
1. Your love and support. Let her know that you are there for her. Share your stories with her so she doesn’t feel alone. Support her in her early parenting decisions. Love her for the powerful woman she is.
What do you bring to a new mother? What is on your top 10 list?
What do you bring to a new mother? What is on your top 10 list?
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Visit Hobo Mama and Code Name: Mama to find out how you can participate in the next Carnival of Natural Parenting!Please take time to read the submissions by the other carnival participants:
(This list will be live and updated by afternoon March 8 with all the carnival links.)
- Attachment Parenting in the NICU — Erica at ChildOrganics shares some strategies to help you parent naturally in some unnatural circumstances.
- 10 Reasons to Choose Baby Led Weaning — Luschka from Diary of a First Child shares ten reasons to choose Baby Led Weaning when it comes to solids.
- Choosing to Breastfeed — From selfishness to self-giving, CatholicMommy at Working to be Worthy lists reasons why breast is best for her and her family.
- Ten Things I Wish I Knew About Before Little Man — In this reflective post, The ArstyMama discusses ten things she wishes she knew more about before the birth of her son, Little Man.
- 10 Things That Helped Me Become a Natural Mama — The Accidental Natural Mama counts down ten things that helped her find her moderately crunchy inner mama self.
- Top 10 Reasons to Breastfeed Your Toddler — Extended breast-feeder Kate Wicker of Momopoly makes her own top 10 list for why she loves nursing her 2-year-old.
- Top 10 Tips on Authentic Grandparenting — Mamapoekie of Authentic Parenting offers a list of tips to make the grandparent-parent-child relationship flow smoothly.
- Top Ten "Dad" Things — Liam at In The Now talks about his favourite ways to spend time with his children.
- Top 10 Natural Strategies for Conception (aka How to Get Pregnant!) — Despite facing plenty of health issues, Jessica Claire at Crunchy-Chewy Mama found her way to two first-try pregnancies thanks to these natural strategies.
- Top Ten Reasons Why Home Birth Rocks — Lucy at Dreaming Aloud shares her passion for birthing at home - the natural place for natural birth.
- Top 10 reasons why cloth nappies are fun — Tat at Cloth Nappies Are Fun shows how using cloth nappies can brighten up your day.
- Top Ten Ways to Be Present With Family — Amy at Innate Wholeness shares how to make the most of parenting and family life through being present.
- Top 10 Things In My Arsenal of Kitchen Witchy Mama Tricks. — Joni Rae at Tales of A Kitchen Witch shares with us the simple things she would never want to be missing from her cupboards.
- Top 10 ways I'm not very good at natural parenting (and why I keep trying anyway) — Jenny at Babyfingers shares the ways she is imperfect as a natural parent, and why she embraces natural parenting anyway.
- Top 10 Ways to Know You Are a Natural Parent — So what makes us "natural parents," anyway? A lighthearted look at the Top 10 Ways to Know You Are a Natural Parent by the editors and readers of Natural Parents Network.
- The Top 10 Things Every Natural Household (with children) Should Have — Amanda at Let's Take the Metro shares a list of the most common natural products and remedies she uses for health and cleaning.
- Top 10 books for raising loving, spiritual children — In her 'food for the soul' post, Mrs Green from Little Green Blog shares her favourite spiritual books. No matter what religion you practise, there's something for everyone!
- Top 10 Things No One Told Me About Natural Parenting — Adrienne at Mommying My Way explains that the best things about natural parenting are things she never expected.
- Top 10 Flower Essences for Families — Kim of Nature Baby Bloggings lists her pick of the top ten flower essence which can help ease families through the ups and downs of life.
- My Top Ten Parenting Tools — Amyables at Toddler In Tow names the top ten tools that have been helpful to her while learning to parent respectfully and successfully.
- Ten Ways Families Can Enjoy Nature (for free!) — Spring is nearly in the air, and Jenn at Monkey Butt Junction is dreaming of the fun and frugal ways that her family is going to get out and enjoy nature this summer.
- 10 Reasons We Unschool — Patti at Jazzy Mama explains why unschooling is the right choice for her family.
- Must Read: Natural Parenting Top Ten — Amy at Anktangle wants you to do a little reading! She shares her top ten favorite books to help parents prepare for pregnancy, birth, and parenting.
- Top 10 Breastfeeding Misconceptions — Sheila at A Gift Universe examines ten reasons women give for why they didn't breastfeed as long as they wanted, and shows how these obstacles can be overcome.
- Ten Reasons to Plan a Home Birth — Since a home birth can be an incredibly empowering experience, Leslie at Lights and Letters outlines ten reasons why you should plan to have your baby at home.
- Top Ten Books for Birth, Breastfeeding and Parenting — Megan at Just Me(gan) writes about the ten books that have helped her the most in her natural parenting journey.
- A Top Ten Letter To Me... — Kat at Loving {Almost} Every Moment writes herself a letter of reflections and bits of wisdom she would have liked to know as a new mama.
- Top Ten Mama Necessities Money Can't Buy — Buying baby gear is fun, but Emily at Crunchy(ish) Mama knows real parenting must-haves can't be bought in stores (or even on Amazon).
- Top 10 Books for a Natural Mum — Isil at Smiling like Sunshine talks about her Top 10 Books for a Natural Mum.
- Ten Great Spring Activities To Do With Preschoolers — Kellie at Our Mindful Life and her family have come up with a great list of activities to do together this spring.
- 10 Ways to Reuse Yogurt Containers — Acacia at Fingerpaint & Superheroes keeps the stacks of yogurt containers out of her recycling bin by reusing them in both practical and creative ways.
- Top Ten Ways To Have a Harmonious Home — Jennifer at Hybrid Rasta Mama shares her natural parenting-inspired methods for maintaining a harmonious daily life with her toddler.
- 10 Natural Baby Items I Love — Charise at I Thought I Knew Mama shares product ideas to support your natural parenting.
- The Pandas' Top Five Crunch-osophies — Top five crunchy philosophies, as employed at the Panda Residence by Ana at Pandamoly.
- Top 10 Reasons to Leave Your Son Intact — Mandy at Living Peacefully with Children has shared 10 reasons why you should leave your newborn son intact.
- Ten things everyone should know about unassisted homebirth — Olivia at Write About Birth shares practical tips for women considering an unassisted homebirth and debunks some common myths
- 10 Most Popular Ways To Treat Cloth Diaper Stains — Chante at My Natural Motherhood Journey gives ten easy tips to make your diapers like new.
- 10 Lessons in 1 Year — Abbie at Farmer's Daughter shares 10 parenting lessons that she has learned throughout her first year of motherhood.
- Top 10 Ways to Get Breastfeeding Off To a Good Start — Sheryl at Little Snowflakes shares 10 effective ways to ensure breastfeeding gets off to a good start.
- Top 10 Ways to Avoid a Time-Out — If you are uncomfortable using time-outs in an attempt to control your child's behavior, try one of these gentler alternatives. Dionna at Code Name: Mama shares her Top 10 Ways to Avoid a Time-Out.
- My Top 10 Parenting Scriptures — Dulce de leche is learning to integrate faith and parenting. Whether it is breastfeeding, babywearing, comforting her children, or gentle discipline, she finds that the Bible has beautiful passages to encourage her on her journey.
- Natural Cleaning Ideas - Top 10 — Laura at Laura's Blog lists the ways she keeps her house clean and clear of chemicals.
- My Top Ten (plus two) Life Altering and Growth Inspiring Books — A top ten list of books from MJ at Wander Wonder Discover that changed her life as an individual, a parent, and an earth dweller.
- Top 10 Ways to Use Natural Parenting for Children with Special Needs — Danielle at Mommy Makes Cents feeds the needs of her family and special needs child through the use of Natural Parenting.
- Ten Fundamentals — Seonaid at The Practical Dilettante gets philosophical with a list of the fundamentals that drive her natural parenting.
- 10 reasons why I chose breast over bottles — Becky at Old New Legacy writes a quick list of why she chose breast over bottles.
- Top Ten Natural Tools for the Work of Play — Lori at Beneath the Rowan Tree offers insight into 10 natural toys that will span the early years (and save you money).
- 10 differences between pregnancy and parenting in Japan and the US — Megan at Ichigo Means Strawberry gives her impressions about differences in pregnancy and parenting in Japan and the US.
- Natural Parenting Benny & Bex Style — Pecky at Benny and Bex explains why Natural Parenting principles work best for her boys.
- Top 10 Reasons to Co-Sleep — 10 practical, emotional, and completely selfish reasons to co-sleep and share a family bed from Lily, aka Witch Mom.
- My Top Ten New Mommy Moments — Melissa at The New Mommy Files recounts the ten most memorable moments of her daughter's first year.
- Top Ten Things Every Breastfeeding Mother Needs to Know — Kristen at Adventures in Mommyhood believes knowledge is power and wants all moms to be well informed.
- Top 10 Nursing Positions / Situations — Momma Jorje uses her 5½ years of nursing experience to share her Top 10 Nursing Positions/Situations. She includes some adorable photos of her youngest daughter at the breast.
- Ten Top Ways to Connect Kids with Nature — Terri from Child at the Nature Isle offers 10 ways to immerse ourselves in the natural world and develop a love affair with the Earth.
- Top 10 Slacker Ways to Natural Parent — Guavalicious is happy to show you how to parent naturally the slacker way.
- Simply what it looks like — Andrea!!! from Ella-Bean & Co. offers a glimpse into natural parenting through the eyes of mama and babe.
- Top Ten Reasons Why Natural Parenting Dads Are So Attractive — Nada at miniMOMist sure digs her husband, but it's not just his good looks -- it's his parenting!
- 10 Family Systems and Routines That Work for Us — See what routines, organizational systems, and parenting approaches work for Kristin at Intrepid Murmurings to help avoid conflict and maintain sanity in a family with three young children.
- Top 10 reasons to choose midwifery care — Lauren at Hobo Mama lists the features that drew her to midwives' care for pregnancy and birth.
- 10 Ways to Cloth Diaper on a Budget — Michelle at The Parent Vortex shares her best thrifty cloth diapering tips.
- Ten Reasons it Felt Sew Good To Make My Own Play Food — Brittany at Mama's Felt Cafe lists her 10 (OK, 11) favorite reasons to grab a needle and start sewing your own felt play toys.
- Top10 Ways to Spark Interest, Learn, and Have Fun With Everyday Tasks! — Bethy at Bounce Me to the Moon gives you her top 10 ways of incorporating fun and lessons into everyday tasks and chores.
- Postpartum Gift Ideas — Alicia at I Found My Feet suggests a top 10 list of gifts for mother's after giving birth.
- My Top Ten Shows Worthy Of Screen Time — Tree at Mom Grooves shares her top ten list of shows that she believes are positive, educational, kind, joyful, and a nice way to share some downtime with your children.
- The Top 10 Ways to Succeed as an Working Attachment Parent — That Mama Gretchen shares tried and true ways to succeed with attachment parenting even when working away from home during the day.
- Top Ten Books for Natural Parenting — Pregnancy, herbs, cooking, and healthcare the ten books Asha at Meta Mom the most.
- Preparing for a Hospital VBAC: My Top 10 — Thomasin at Propson Palingenesis shares 10 ways she's preparing for her upcoming hospital VBAC.
- Top Ten New Mom Survival Tools — Wolfmother shares her most beloved motherhood survival tools at Fabulous Mama Chronicles.
- Top 10 Montessori Principles for Natural Learning — Deb Chitwood at Living Montessori Now gives her top 10 list of Montessori principles parents can use to encourage their children s natural learning.
- Going Granola — Tashmica from The Mother Flippin' Blog describes the 10 ways that natural parenting sneaked up on her. She never expected to go all granola on the world.
- Step Away From the Amazon List — Stefanie at Very, Very Fine wishes she hadn't bought so much useless stuff.
What a wonderful list! I'm tempted to slyly email it to everyone on my local contacts list…hee hee.
ReplyDeleteNo one really brought us anything after Mikko's birth, which was kind of a bummer. We roped my sister-in-law into bringing us food, constant food, because we simply had no hands or time free. We realized that the best meals/snacks were able to be eaten one-handed and at room temperature, so we had a lot of veggie & fruit trays and hummus with crackers.
I would love it if someone wanted to come over and clean my bathrooms — or, better yet, give me a gift certificate for a cleaning service!
I loved the girl scout cookies that people brought to the hospital for us! Great list!
ReplyDeleteHello, Compatriot!
ReplyDeleteI wish people had brought me FOOD when my babies were born.
This is a great list.
Wonderful ideas! I had some friends bring me food in the hospital, and I was thrilled! I would have loved to get some reading materials and lotions. I could never ask people to clean my house, but if they had offered, I would have taken anyone up on their offer!
ReplyDeleteI always appreciated food after having a baby. With the constant nursing, and then especially when I also had older children, it was so helpful to just heat up food.
ReplyDeleteHow about a personalized gift to commemorate the occasion? It's a keepsake the mom will enjoy for the rest of her life as much as she will enjoy her new child (or almost, at least!)
ReplyDeleteThis is a great list! I remember wishing I had help with meals especially. I've never eaten so much takeout pizza in my life. Yuck.
ReplyDeleteThis is great! I am bookmarking this post for later when I become a postpartum doula!
ReplyDeleteI was most thankful for the food my parents cooked (and froze) for me. Healthy and delivered to me in bed--no one requiring me to go down to the table with them, just visiting me in my own bed, allowing me to eat while snuggling my little one.
ReplyDeleteThis time around I think I could use an offer to babysit my firstborn, so I can rest with the new baby. Or a set-up where someone would agree to come by maybe twice in once week to check-in on us, let me shower, and help with laundry. ;-) I've got the "stuff" I need/want, but I would love an extra set of hands!
Great list.
I love the idea of a tin of lactation cookies! Maybe with a new nursing top.
ReplyDeleteFOOD! YES! My goodness, the food they serve in hospital is gag worthy. My hubby brought me some real food and I think I feel in love with him all over again.
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ReplyDeleteGreat list! I got a gift certificate for a massage AND an offer to stay home with the baby (she was sleeping and I made it home before she woke up) and that was so great!
ReplyDeleteA friend of mine also sent me some Mrs. Patel's Milk Makers - the Peanut Butter Fenugreek bars. They were yum, yum, yummy! They were my morning treats for myself. Plus, I was having some low supply issues and these amped up my milk. Yay!